Love yourself is a term that is thrown around alot these days but what does it really mean? How do you know when you love yourself? How can you gauge when you have improved?
Well the answer is it is different for us all. What I do know is when you truly love yourself you do things that make YOU happy, you eat well, exercise, rest, and make sure all of your needs are met. I also know that your inner dialogue or self talk is positive.
How do I know this? For many years I did not love myself, I did not look after myself, I over exercised and under ate and even tho on the outside I portrayed a picture of happiness, on the inside I was not.
For years I went through my life in this state of fraudulent happiness. Sometimes I was the life and soul of the party but on the inside all I wanted to do was curl up and die.
How does this happen? Firstly I had way too much pride to let anyone know how I was really feeling. I was going to keep the ‘stiff upper lip’ as a good English girl should. Except one day I could not do it anymore and broke down.
It was during this time of breakdown when I really had to make some decisions about how I really wanted to live my life. Did I want to feel like this for the rest of my life or did I want to feel differently?
My favourite saying is….. “If you always do what you have always done, you will always get, what you always got”.
What does that saying REALLY mean? It means for change to happen we need to take a different approach.
I realised that if I kept doing what I was, I would get the same results, so if I wanted to BE HAPPY I had to change something. Once I really got this, it made so much sense to me.
The next question was how can I change? What steps did I need to make to create a change in my happiness and in my life.
Firstly I had to identify what in my life was not working and what in my life was making me happy. Obviously I had to keep the things that made me happy and get rid of the things that didn’t. Identifying these things was the first step.
Then I had to look at my self talk. What was I telling myself on a daily basis. What sort of thing was I telling myself. Was my self talk positive or negative? When I really listened to the voice in my head it was negative.
It was telling me how bad life was, how bad I was, how unlovable I was how no one understood me. Now if I was standing behind you for a whole day telling you these kind of things, think about how would you feel? Thanks right. You would be the opposite of happy.
If I spent a day standing behind you telling you how good you are, how worthy and how beautiful you are and how your light shines out of you and how inspiring you are to others, that would be a different story. I’m sure you will start to feel happier.
This is the same with our self talk. Once we REALLY notice what we are telling ourselves, we can create change. We can be consciously aware of what we are saying to ourselves.
This is why doing affirmations are important. Write a list of the great things you want to be and say them to yourself daily. It takes 21 days to change a habit. So why not give it a go and see what happens.
Some Examples Are:
• My health is a priority
• I love myself
• I am lovable
• I care about myself
• I look after myself
• I am a fit
• I feel amazing
• I am happy
• I am abundant
• I am focused
• I am clear
• I am financially secure
• I am creative
• Everything I need is available to me right now
Use the words that are personal to you. How do you want to be in YOUR life. The more you use your own words and say things that are personal to you the better it will be.
I would LOVE you to try this for 21 days and I would love to hear your results.
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You can contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org to see how I can help you. Sharon is the founder of Global Healing Exchange. You can work with her on her Emotional Freedom Program here.