When I think of the word ‘beliefs’ I think of several things. What I would like to do for this article is to separate these thoughts out and place them into three distinct lines of thought and aspects.
The first one is ‘Self-Belief’, the second is ‘Belief in Other People’ and the final one is ‘Spiritual or Religious Beliefs’.
For me, self-belief is one of the most empowering and necessary things that I can bring into my life. It is the one thing that I can work with every day as I engage with both myself and other people with my interactions, communications and connections.
Learning and putting into place new belief systems to replace the old ‘used by date’ beliefs, that may have been in my head for decades, is a constant activity for me.
Having a deep sense of self-belief enables me to do so much in my life. It enables me to be more courageous, more vulnerable, more adventurous and more emotionally open, empowered, connected and healthier – physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
Having a good sense of self-belief helps me to keep the doubts from forming less often. It helps me to stay more positive generally, which then ripples out around me.
In my work as a counsellor, psychotherapist and teacher I work a lot with people who lack this sense of self-belief. I see lots of clients, students and workshop participants who have a very negative view of themselves.
This is of no surprise if we take a moment to look at all the outer messages around us that point, show, tell, or determine how we should look, feel, act or even think.
From a very early age we are surrounded by these messages and if we are not guided and protected by our parents and educators from this and given positive reinforcing words to support, encourage and nurture us, then it is almost inevitable that we will have some self-belief issues.
The basic message from the advertising world is ‘You are not good enough (unless you buy and use our product)’.
These messages get implanted within our subconscious mind, as that is most often how the advertising is designed and we then act out from these messages to make ourselves more acceptable, desirable or beautiful.
To overcome and heal some of our negative beliefs about ourselves we basically must learn how to ‘love ourselves’. We must go on a journey of self-discovery, self-acceptance, self-honouring and perhaps even self-forgiveness.
Taking the time to do this, whilst consciously trying to steer away from the many artificial things that should make us look or feel better is often a challenge.
Bringing ourselves back to who we are without our masks (clothes, make-up and all those other things that keep us out of self-love) can generally only be done if we have a mission to do so. Otherwise it is easy to get caught up in…
Belief In Other People
Having a belief in other people is an interesting thing to contemplate. It is interesting to get a sense of who in our own lives we believe in. Who are these people? Why do we believe in them?
In my work, I have to believe in my clients. I have to believe that they want to change. I have to believe that they have the courage, the will and the energy to make the changes.
I have to believe that they and I will form a relationship to enable this to happen. If I do not carry this belief and set up a negative non-belief about it, the reality is, not much will change.
I find that when I work with people in this capacity I have to keep all judgement, negativity and any possible reactions right out of the picture. I must be very present and focused.
We also have various beliefs in people in our social, political, medical, scientific and spiritual realms and with our mentors, coaches, counsellors, idols and perhaps even our employers or bosses. In these realms, it is about believing in…
Spiritual Or Religious Beliefs
This belief goes way outside of ourselves in one sense and way within ourselves on another….
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Adrian Hanks – Life Mastery Coach