The question of what emotions are can be a bit tricky to nail down. It depends on who you ask really. I’ve heard it said that emotions reside in the body and feelings reside in the mind.
But I think we would all agree that there’s a bit more to it than that.
What we know for sure through Bruce Lipton’s work and Candace Pert’s great book “Molecules of Emotion”, is that emotions are not just about our non-physical reality, but that they also create biochemical reactions in our body.
Turning negative emotions into positive emotions, is it possible?
What I personally know for sure is that I’ve had a complex relationship with emotions for most of my life. I know that I need to give you some background here so that you can make sense of this.
I’ll start be telling you that I hit a particularly rocky patch in the road at the end of 2014, when I found myself having to contend with the consequences of being made redundant from a well-paying job that I’d held for over 15 years.
coincided with the fact that my daughter was going into adolescence, and I was going into menopause at the same time.
To be honest I felt like I was in the middle of a perfect storm with both my own and my daughter’s hormones going crazy, and unemployment stretching out in front of me.
After going through all of the emotions that were triggered by my redundancy, I decided to make use of the ’spare’ time I had on my hands by writing a book about my experience of menopause.
My thinking was that I could put the struggle I’d been having to good use by writing about the improvements I’d achieved by focusing on the fundamentals of diet, exercise, stress management, and mindset.
The thing I didn’t realise at the time was that I was going to have to build a business around my book to keep the family’s finances afloat.
The long and the short of it is that after unsuccessfully applying for over 30 jobs that I was eminently qualified for, I decided to bite the bullet and save my energy for more fruitful endeavours.
In others words, I processed the feelings of rejection and loss completely and quickly, and then got on with my life.
One of the unexpected consequences of this was that I experienced two incredibly poignant pieces of healing, as a result of writing my story down for the book that became “Thrive in Midlife”.
One of these cathartic experiences came about as I was considering the options I had for handling menopause in 2014, compared with the options my mother had when she was in the same position in the early 1980s.
The stark reality here was that in mum’s day, synthetic hormones were prescribed without a second thought, and sadly she was one of the many women who paid the price in terms of being diagnosed with breast cancer in her late 60s.
At the time, I was surprised to feel a sense of gratitude to Tamoxifen which is still the drug of choice for treating breast cancer. The gratitude was due to the fact that it bought mum some extra time, and that gave her a chance to get to know my daughter Lucy.
It also gave Lucy a chance to get to know her grandmother. I only wish it wasn’t such a short window of opportunity though, because Lucy was only one when mum passed away.
I share this part of my story with you, because I felt my heart split open when I wrote about mum’s brief relationship with Lucy in my book.
This was a huge deal for me because there were a couple of traumas around my entry into the world that fundamentally shaped the way I experienced my emotions right up to the time when I stumbled on tools like Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP).
NLP helped me to work through some of the baggage I’d accumulated over time. I was aware of one of these traumas, but the other one came as a complete shock to me.
The one that I was aware of had to do with the fact that mum almost died from a blood clot that travelled to her lung just after giving birth to me.
Meanwhile, the bigger piece of the puzzle relates to the fact that I was the surviving twin in a case of Vanishing Twin Syndrome. This didn’t come to light until I was 45 and training to be a NLP Master Practitioner.
In fact, my awareness around the fact…
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Jane Turner – Woman’s Health Expert